Someone said the other day that they were having “emotional allergies” to a certain situation. So I thought about that for a while.
Yes, there are folks with certain behaviors we might not be fond of and always remember we can pick and choose who we spend time with. But treating a certain behavior that someone engages in like an allergy doesn't seem to accurately fit. It's equating an external irritant like pollen, to what someone did that felt emotionally irritating to you... Read MoreComments
Someone brought two videos to my attention recently. One was of toddlers given lemons to suck on, and the other appeared to be a father mocking his 10-year-old son, who was upset about something. Many people had viewed these videos, and the comments were mostly positive. People thought they were funny.
But both of the videos were very sad to me. As a psychotherapist who works with children and families, these videos aren't funny. They are shaming, cruel, and a violation of the child's trust in their parents and caretakers. ... Read MoreComments
Do you feel unsure about the relationship you're currently in? Do you have doubts? You might think, “It seems right, but how can I know for sure?”
If you need confirmation that you're in the right relationship, then it's helpful to take a step back and look at what's going on. It's important to see what's going on inside of you, as well as what's happening in the relationship. ... Read MoreComments